“The ‘D’ in divorce stands for DISASTER, DISTRESS, DANGER, DENIAL, DISEMPOWERMENT, DISRESPECT, DETACHMENT and DESTRUCTION in the dissolution of a marriage.”
– Dr. Tanya Robinson in her book, DIVORCE: WHAT ABOUT THE CHILDREN
Unfortunately we live in a society where most marriages fail. In South Africa, 1 out of every 2 marriages ends in divorce. A number of people stay on in failed marriages while most embark on the legal process to try and begin a new life.
Whatever decision you make depends on your circumstances, values and the attitude of your partner.
NO couple goes into marriage thinking they will be the ones Won’t make it.
Certainly, at your wedding, you thought you were promising a love that would last a lifetime. Now, for reasons you may not fully understand, that dream seems shattered.
As you try to understand the pain and determine what to do, divorce may look like an appealing way out. “After all,” you might reason, “life is full of second chances. Perhaps I simply married the wrong person, and Mr. or Mrs. Right is still out there somewhere.”
You may think you were too young when you married, or that you never really loved your spouse. You just convinced yourself it would be better than being alone. Or maybe you are just tired of the arguing, tired of the lack of communication, tired of the coldness in your relationship. Perhaps you simply want out – period. Or maybe you are hoping against hope that your marriage can be salvaged.